Anxiety (long & xposted) : Parenting after Child or Pregnancy Loss

Fri Oct 23, 2009 9:11 am

OK, I so I am starting to stress out and have anxiety attacks. Over
everything. And I am hoping by typing it out, it will ease some of the
fears. They are all over the board too- not just about baby, but all
centered on baby, ugh if that makes any sense.
I am scared of something being wrong. I know baby is head down, or I
believe baby is head down. Two weeks ago Almond was transverse but
after a few miserable days, little bugger turned. Thank god, I am able
to move again. And the hip pain has lessened as there isn't a limb in
my hip joint. But now I am worried about the cord. What if it is
wrapped around baby's neck? What if the push out is what takes my baby
from me? What if baby gets stressed and blood flow is cut off and I
loose him or her before I am ready to deliver?
Next I am worried about the H1N1, yet I don't feel I can do enough to
protect myself and the baby. I got the flu right as I lost Carni. I
had the bacterial infection then the next day, as I should have started
feeling better, I got the flu. So I am more worried about my emotional
state than the actual flu. I am worried about the flu, I am washing
hands, lysoling stuff, taking vitamins, resting and drinking my OJ- all
the basic precautions. And I know what it feels like the flu, the
difference between that and a bad cold so I can get the tamiflu
(another class c, hope all is ok drug), but will all this hurt baby?
And finally I worry about going into labor. What time will it happen? How
fast can i get to the hospital? How fast can Joe get home from work if
I go during the day? How fast can my Dad get to me and Sarah as he is
taking her while I am in the hospital? Sarah is not allowed to
accompany us to the hospital of my child care falls through, so I am
worried. I have neighbors that can take her for a few hours, but my
Dad and his wife live over 2 hours away and have to get here for her.
If none of my neighbors are home, who will take her? Joe will have to
stay with her while I go to the hospital, as I need to get there early
and get my epi. I have neck issues and they can't place a breathing
tube if something goes wrong, so an epi is my insurance. What if I go
quickly, as I am prone to do, and Joe isn't there for me?
UGH! I hate all the fears and unknowns. Maybe this is why I was unable to
sleep last night, my mind just wouldn't shut down? I have a DA with
my OB in a few hours, so hopefully can get some answers or at least
tell her what's up. I hate this, I doubt everything since Carni.
Maybe its cause her birthday is coming up in about 6 wks? It's all
flooding my mind? Lord I am mess. Thanks for letting me get it all
out.

Sat Oct 24, 2009 4:02 pm

Don't you just wish you could turn brain off somedays? You have done so good with this pg and you have no reason to worry about the rest of it! I remember having days and weeks that were really bad when I was pg with ds and thinking about lots of those types of things....it only tormented my soul even more. DH tried to just keep me busy and my mind occupied so that I wouldn't think about those things. I hope that your anxiety level can do down and allow you to enjoy the last few weeks of your pg wit Almond and have a fun holiday season with dd. Hang in there hun, you can do this!! ((HUGS))

Sun Oct 25, 2009 5:50 pm

You sound just like I did the last couple months of my pregnancy with Mia!

And look - everything turned out perfectly! It will for you too!

Hang in there mama... try not to worry about everything (yeah, easier said than done right??) and just have faith that everything will be ok. Just keep thinking positive and be sure to talk about the things that are bothering you. This board is amazing for that! We're all here for you... and praying for you and Baby. **big hugs**

Tue Oct 27, 2009 8:27 am

i know this is not a cure for anxiety, but you are going to have this baby in a few weeks and everything is going to be perfect. I know it's easier said than done, as we've all been there,where you are now, about to give birth and all the emotions that we go through, esp. with a previous loss. The best thing you can do for you now is to take good care of yourself and allowing your mind to go to that anxiety ridden place will lower your immune system and stress isn't good for the baby either. In these last few weeks, please take good care of yourself. Do some basic things - go get a manicure and pedicure or a massage, burn Lavendar essential oil through your house. Lavendar is the most healing on all levels and will not hurt the baby and will do you some good. Basically, whatever you have ever done to relax, it is a MUST right now. You deserve it, after all, in a few weeks you're going to be so busy with a new brother/sister for Sarah at home!! Big hugs and wishing you the very best!! ~Allison

Parenting after Chil…

Board Leaders

Most Active Topics

Topic Statistics

Resources

Anxiety (long & xposted)