anyone get sad when they BF?

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by rebecksterw
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Wed Apr 11, 2012 3:50 pm
Ok so I haven't really talked about this because I kinda thought i was a little crazy and also because I couldn't really pin point it for the longest time.

It started in the hospital when I would pump - I thought it was a little post partem or maybe just the suckeyness of not being around my girls but I would get this weird feeling when I would pump. I couldn't explain it much better than by saying it was as if something was wrong. I thought i was haveing an aversion to my nipples being used for something other than pleasure but wasn't convinced that this was the real issue.

I didn't really start breast feeding until i got home from the hospital so it took a while for the feeling to pass on from just pumping to pumping and feeding. Now that I was bf more often I would notice that the entire time I would feel down and want to cry. it was so strange. I was loving bonding with my girls and I was happy that I was able to provide for them but I still wanted to cry. and then when I would stop feeding the feeling would go away.

Now I'm noticing the feeling right before I have let down! I can't believe it - it's like a feel sad and then a moment later I get the tingly feeling of let down.

I'm pushing through the sadness since I know it's only fleeting and probably because of hormones but still so strange right?

Anyone else ever feel sad when they BF, pump or have let down??
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by kmattson84
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Wed Apr 11, 2012 4:24 pm
Oh My Gosh... I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. I've been trying to figure out this feeling as well. It's not there all the time. Since I'm just pumping and feeding I get this feeling every time I pump. Its there in the first few mins of pumping then I try to shake it off thinking it's just hormones or something. I'm so terrified of postpartum depression so when I feel down I try to ignore it but it's only when I pump. I'm happy all the rest of the time. So I'm ruling out depression.
I know it's such a weird and not happy feeling but I feel so much better knowing that someone else feels this same way sometimes.
I can't give you an explanation but I'm going through the same thing.
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by YannaA_BZCL
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Wed Apr 11, 2012 4:33 pm
I can't say I've had that experience but I wonder if it is a surge in hormones that might happen when you are BF'ing or pumping? I know let down probably triggers all sorts of body reactions and I'm sure there are hormones involved in there somewhere!

I'm glad at least it is fleeting for you guys and it isn't a feeling that sticks around! Hopefully someone will have a better explanation!
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by EansMommy
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Wed Apr 11, 2012 7:27 pm
I have this. I never knew what it was and just lived with it with my other two children. I just recently learned about it. It affects 10% of breastfeeding moms. It is NOT PPD.
It is a horrible feeling of imminent doom right before letdown and then... it just goes away. At least until you feed again. The reason behind it is your brain doesn't produce enough dopamine right before letdown... a lack of oxytocin. I don't believe in taking anti-psychotics for therapy so I am currently taking primrose oil. It is working wonders and I enjoy breastfeeding SO MUCH this time! I am not sure if it is the primrose oil or the natural birth that is working, but I'm just so glad not to have it this time. It's hard to tell people about it because they look at you like you are crazy. The dark thoughts are scary. I wish you the VERY BEST in managing this.

Here is a youtube video that explains it a bit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3kAT83Wt0c

Here is a website that has helpful information regarding this condition.

http://www.d-mer.org/Home_Page.html
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by TAS13
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Wed Apr 11, 2012 7:54 pm
I have never experienced this, but have totally heard of it. So glad Nickie was able to post some sites for you to check out and is having success with the primrose oil. It is not super common, but you are certainly not alone. So sorry you're experiencing this, but think it's great you're talking about it. Hope you find something that helps.

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by 0lovely0laura0
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Thu Apr 12, 2012 9:31 am
I have never heard of this. I'm sorry y'all r goin thru it and so glad Nickie had some info. Definately worth reading! Hope you get straightened out fast! Having a baby leaves you emotional enough, you don't need this added on top of it!
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by rebecksterw
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Thu Apr 12, 2012 9:39 am
EansMommy wrote: I am currently taking primrose oil. It is working wonders and I enjoy breastfeeding SO MUCH this time! I am not sure if it is the primrose oil or the natural birth that is working, but I'm just so glad not to have it this time.


So nice to know that I'm not alone - and even nicer to know that you found something that helped you get through it! I might have to look into primrose. And thank you for sending me those links. I did find the second one in my searches. My case seems to be pretty manageable. I also don't agree with taking meds so I know that I won't ever go that route. Thankfully I'm very good at understanding that what I'm feeling and experiencing is only hormonal and it is manageable. I know that it goes away when I'm done so I know that I can get through it.

I know that people don't understand it or think it's possible to feel that way and it not be PPD so I'm hoping that by posting this anyone else who is feeling this way and doesn't understand it can know that they aren't alone.
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by kmattson84
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Thu Apr 12, 2012 7:57 pm
EansMommy wrote:I have this. I never knew what it was and just lived with it with my other two children. I just recently learned about it. It affects 10% of breastfeeding moms. It is NOT PPD.
It is a horrible feeling of imminent doom right before letdown and then... it just goes away. At least until you feed again. The reason behind it is your brain doesn't produce enough dopamine right before letdown... a lack of oxytocin. I don't believe in taking anti-psychotics for therapy so I am currently taking primrose oil. It is working wonders and I enjoy breastfeeding SO MUCH this time! I am not sure if it is the primrose oil or the natural birth that is working, but I'm just so glad not to have it this time. It's hard to tell people about it because they look at you like you are crazy. The dark thoughts are scary. I wish you the VERY BEST in managing this.

Here is a youtube video that explains it a bit.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j3kAT83Wt0c

Here is a website that has helpful information regarding this condition.

http://www.d-mer.org/Home_Page.html


Thanks so much! This was very helpful. I'm going to try the primrose oil tablets. I hate this feeling every time I pump. It makes me dread it but knowing that it's actually called something makes me feel like I can get through this.
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