Guilt : Loss of a Loved One Zone

Mon Aug 17, 2009 10:00 am

I saw a post on family.com about guilt so I thought I'd bring it here and see what you all had to say.

Do you have any regrets or guilt? Is there something you wish you would've done differently? Something you wish you would have said?

My guilt isn't so much what I could've done but more so what I could've
said. Before my mom's death, I was staying with her during the day
while my dad worked. She got really sick the year before and almost
died then. After that she was afraid to be home by herself and to be
honest, didn't need to be alone. I was with her on Monday. She wasn't
feeling well and made the comment that she was dying and she knew it. I
didn't say a word....I don't think I even looked at her. I didn't see
her at all on Tuesday, she knew I wasn't coming that day. She was
extremely sick Tuesday night and hospitalized Wednesday morning. We
were told she wouldn't make it through the night.

Sat Sep 12, 2009 3:44 pm

My oldest sister was just asking me about this the other day. I am total peace with my mom's passing. I was driving 6 hours one way every other weekend from feb to the end of June to visit her. The end of June I brought her home with me. We had her set up in our livingroom of our 1 bdrm apt.
I am sure there are times I lost my patience with her but I am not perfect in anyway. My dh was totally agains the idea of her coming to stay at our place almost caused a divorce but I would not change it fot the world. She was with us for one month before she died. I would have a ton of guilt if I would have listened to dh and not let her come stay with us. I am so glad I was with her for that last month.

Mon Sep 14, 2009 9:55 am

gus&bo'smama wrote: The end of June I brought her home with me. We had her set up in our livingroom of our 1 She was with us for one month before she died. I would have a ton of guilt if I would have listened to dh and not let her come stay with us. I am so glad I was with her for that last month.

I'm so glad she was able to stay with you. I'm sure it meant the world to her.

Sat Oct 24, 2009 12:22 pm

My mother lost her mother in June of this year, they always had a hard relatioship, my grandmother was always tough with her. My mother spent her last day with her, and one thing i will always remember is that she told my grama "if i have been a ad daught or i have donesomething ro hurt you PLEASE FORGIVE, I love you and adore you, you will always be in my heart" my mother said she felt at peace when my grama passed on..........even if you didnt say what you wanted too at the moment, you still can now. Our family memebers that have passed can always hear us talk to them.......

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