Wed Jun 27, 2012 4:24 pm
Is anyone else out there private about ttc with family/friends? I don't know, maybe some of you are comfortable telling your nearest and dearest, but I'm just not. That's why I really appreciate this forum: being able to ask questions while still remaining anonymous. I don't want to tell my parents because no matter how old I am or how "successful" I am in my life, I am fairly certain they'll think it would have been smarter/better to wait just a few more years. (That's their attitude about everything...getting married, moving, buying a house, buying a car, etc.) My in-laws would probably be supportive, but I think it's weird to basically tell by in-laws that I'm having unprotected sex with their son :-P
So my in-laws are super sweet, and they generally have a glass or two of wine with each meal. Before ttc, I almost always had one with them, too, with the exception of being Designated Driver (there's 0 tolerance with drinking and driving here, so even a glass of wine is not acceptable if you're driving). So today, I'm just starting my 2ww, so I would really rather not have any wine, but my in-laws were more or less forcing it on me, lol. A couple of months ago, we had lunch with them, and lunch consisted almost entirely of foods that you're not supposed to eat if you're pregnant (uncooked lunch meats, uncooked fish, soft blue cheeses, etc.) I ended up just eating salad, and hoped nobody noticed. I can get away with asking for decaf coffee in the evenings if I say I don't sleep well, but it's harder to get away with it in the morning or at lunchtime.
What are your best "nonchalant" excuses for rejecting non-preggo-friendly food and drinks without giving it away that you're ttc? So far, all I've got is "I'm driving," which doesn't work if I'm not actually the one driving!