Multiple Children? I can't understand it. : General Topics Zone

Mon Sep 07, 2009 10:14 am

I am the mom of wonderful two year old, and I have no dersire to ever have any more kids. He had a rough start and we are still dealing with some of his special needs. I wonder if that has anything to do with it, or maybe just one is enough for me. I find parenting to be scary, but I love him soooo much. How could I ever love another the same way. Anyone feel the same?

Wed Sep 09, 2009 9:44 am

Hey Kat, welcome to BabyZone.

There is nothing wrong with being content with having one child. Plenty of parents only have one by choice.

It could be that because of the issues you've mentioned, you're not ready to think about it now. Maybe one day you will be able to imagine having another...if not that's ok too.

Thu Sep 10, 2009 11:43 pm

kitkats83 wrote:I am the mom of wonderful two year old, and I have no dersire to ever have any more kids. He had a rough start and we are still dealing with some of his special needs. I wonder if that has anything to do with it, or maybe just one is enough for me. I find parenting to be scary, but I love him soooo much. How could I ever love another the same way. Anyone feel the same?

I think that's normal! My husband was a difficult child due to a diagnosis he had, and there's a possibility that our son might be as well. If so, I would definitely want to put off having another one until his routine and development was adequately established. Maybe you will want another child later, or maybe not. Either way, I think waiting is great because it's ensuring your first child's needs are well met before making your schedule more complicated with another baby.

Tue Sep 22, 2009 11:32 pm

You are being selfish to only have one child. How very lonely for that kid. Holidays, special occasions, family vacations, day to day...It's only going to be him. No sibling to play cops and robbers with or to crash toy cars with. No sibling to confide in about personal things that only another sibling would understand.
Yes, you can say that you'll be his friend and play those things with him; but it's not the same at all. Any parent with 2 kids can tell you that they are so grateful to have had another one. Give your son a best friend for life.

Wed Oct 07, 2009 5:58 pm

I seriously disagree with some of the responses that you have recieved!!! You are not being selfish! I am a 26 year old mother of two and am expecting a third in April '10. I am also an only child. My child hood was not lonely. I had two great parents that I got to spend alot of individual time with. The only thing that might be trying is caring for my parents when they are no longer to care for themselves since they are divorced. I only wanted one child also, until my oldest turned 4 and then I realized I was never going to be able to have that bond with another child. So I changed my mind. After the second was born my husband and I decided to have one more.

But, you are not being selfish. I think it is important as mothers to know what we can and can not comit to. Unlike some women who have a litter of kids and do not care for them properly. My only advise to you is enjoy your child while he is young and keep your options open. You never know, you might change your mind. Or you may not! But NEITHER makes you selfish!

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