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Thu Apr 24, 2008 3:09 am

I just happened to find this board and am so glad to see it! My name is Jamie, I have had many losses: Grandma 4/97 to colon cancer, Grandpa in 9/03 to colon cancer, my Dad in 11/05. I have had many more, but these are the ones that have impacted me most.

I lost my Dad November 15, 2005 at the age of 45 to stage 4 lung cancer. I still really can't believe it. He was diagnosed August 9, 2005. Just 3 short months, I miss him so much. I sometimes feel like people think I am weird for wanting to talk about him. Luckily my DH was close to my dad, he says closer to my dad than his own and he is always willing to talk to me. I am sometimes still angry, he was ill for the entire year before getting diagnosed, but he kept saying it was just a cold, just bronchitis, etc. And I am also angry at his doctors, because they just diagnosed him with bronchitis and gave him antibiotics, I know you don't expect lung cancer in a 45 year old, but how many times can a person get bronchitis before you start questioning that. I was a nursing student at the time, now an RN, and Dad was an EMT for 23 years so it is not like he was medically naive. Anyways, I am just having a bad day and really missing him. Thanks so much for listening and I look forward to meeting everyone! Jamie

 

Thu Apr 24, 2008 11:20 am

Hi Jamie, welcome to the board. I'm Jessica. I lost my grandpa in April 05 and I lost my dad in Oct. 05 at the age of 47 to colon cancer. He battled for 5 long years. I am the same way, I love to talk about my dad, especially when I am really missing him, but then think, this person I am talking to doesn't want to hear this so I quickly change the subject. I am glad you found us over here and I hope you are able to come here to grieve and look for support.

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Thu Apr 24, 2008 11:21 am

Hi and welcome to the board, I am sorry for you losses. I know talking about my mom helped me alot luckily I had alot of people ask me about her so I did not feel ackward talking about our experiance. Everyone grieves differently and some of us need to talk about our loved ones and get it out.

I hope your day gets better (hugs)

Lisa

Angus Liam 02/18/04
Brodie Ian 05/18/06

Thu Apr 24, 2008 11:39 am

Hi Jamie, I'm Selvi. I lost my Uncle a month ago to Cancer...Not sure which one got him, his body was riddled with cancer. I lost my grandfather figure to stage 4 lung cancer in oct 2005, he got diagnosed with it in May and they did a heavy set of chemo and radiation for 2 months but it didn't do anything other then weakening his body.

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses. I still want to talk to my grandpa as well. I wish my SO got to meet him before he was in the hospital on his deathbed, I wish he could have met my son who's got his name for his middle name. It's hard but most if not all of us understand.

 
 
 

Thu Apr 24, 2008 12:23 pm

Thanks Ladies! I am lucky that I am an ER Nurse and I work in the ER that my Dad brought patients to for 23 years. So most of the staff knew him and they are always telling me stories about him. Everyone loved my Dad, he never met a stranger and would do anything for anyone, even his worst enemies (if he had any!) So I do have people that are willing to talk to me and listen, but this is such a great board to talk about the everyday grieving process!

 

Thu Apr 24, 2008 1:31 pm

Hi Jamie! I am new here also. I lost my mom less than a month ago to Stage 4 Lung Cancer, she was only 51.

I am feeling a lot of the same anger as you are. I am so sorry for you loss and in such a short time.

Please know that I am here to listen.

Hugs,

Jamie

Wife to Jim since 09/02/00

Mama to Allison Grace (11/16/04)
And Elizabeth Lyn (06/19/06)