The reason for this board...

[by LynseyT]

I wanted to take a moment to remind everyone why the Loss board exists.





We are all mothers who have lost babies or children. We have that bond. A loss affects each person differently. We grieve differently, we look to different places for support, we get angry at different things. All of this is normal and okay.




BUT what isn't different is that everyone who comes to this board should be supported. We are here to lend an ear, give a hug, shed a tear and to make anyone feel comfortable posting here.



We are NOT here to debate topics or say hurtful things to or about other members. Each woman on this board is at a different place in her grief. We need to respect that and help each other get through each day.



If you have any questions about the Loss board or want to talk to either host...please email me at KatherineRBZHost@gmail.com



This board has helped so many women, we hope to be able to keep supporting and helping.



Please feel free to tell your story in a new topic, share as much as you feel comfortable.



Also, there's been a change in the TOU for Babyzone. Here are the guidelines for your signatures.



They must be UNDER 500 pixels wide by 300 pixels tall. This is including all text. Each line of text is counted as 10 pixels tall.



If you right click on your signature you can add up all the pixels. If any of you need me to check yours if you are unsure, please reply below. Also, if you need help resizing, I can do that also.



They've been really cracking down on this, so I'd rather let you girls know here and help you out, than you have to worry about it. I know it's the last thing we want to worry about after having a loss.



Thank you,

Katherine

host of Child or Pregnancy Loss

[by BrokenAngel1122]

It's weird. I lost my son over 4 years ago. He was born at 22 weeks, on the 22nd of November 2004, and was with us for exactly 22 minutes. But I only grieved for a short time, as Trevor's father wasn't exactly the supportive type. I was only 19, and the whole event was overwhelming, especially being so young. The thing is, now I'm 23 and all of a sudden this flood of emotions has come over me; I can't stop thinking about my son, and mourning his loss. It came out of nowhere and now I feel like I'm missing him in my every day life. I guess it's because now I'm getting to want a child; my friends all have babies...and I've been to a lot of child-oriented events (birthday parties, etc.). I always feel left out and wish Trevor was here with me. Why now? Why am I suffering now over my loss over 4 years ago? Is this normal? And how do I come to terms with such a great loss without a real support system? I'm just...distraught.

[by rebelprincess]

I have a 8 month old lil boy and I'm very blessed he was a premie and healthy.  The other day, the girl that bought a horse from our farm called to tell us that she had lost her 2 year old son. This has been awful for me, I can't sleep all I do is think about it. I never met this lil boy, only met his mom twice and talked on the phone to her a couple times. I don't know why this is effecting me this way, but it is really causing some strain on my marriage and my life. When my son was born early, but he was healthy we could take sigh of relief. Then when we made it through the first night, then the first week, then after six months I thought wow were in the clear now, but all those feelings are gone. I don't know how to explain this to anyone. I'm really sorry to hear about your son, at least for 22 minutes you got to meet an angel, and you'll see him again some day.

[by Hurting Mommy]

When I was 18 I got pregnant with my first son whom I call baby J.J. ( Jacob James), throughout my pregnancy my relationship was very bad with the father. Mental, and emotional abuse were a everyday factor in this relationship.. Well needless to say when I was a month and 3 days away from my due date I fell and all the loser could do was laugh at me.. I got this feeling when i stood up sokething was worng and went to the emerge right away.. But it was to late when I fell the baby died inside if me.. I was forced to deliver my son by my self without his father there cause he didnt believe me.. I still to this very day have a piece of my heart missing and he was born February 2 2004.. MAybe it was gods way of letting me know that it was the time to end this relationship with his dad.. I still mourn for my child every day and night.. I have come to the conclusion that no matter how much closer you may get from a loss like that the pain never goes away..

[by MomtoBeW/#1]

I just found out yesterday that I miscarried. It's the fourth one I've been through in two years. It has been a difficult journey for us. We were told we could not concieve after the last miscarriage. We did fertility treatments for three months and found out a few weeks ago that I was pregnant. We had never had a positive HPT before because of low hormones. We finally had gotten our first BFP on a HPT...then three weeks later, when I went in for my first ultrasound yesterday, they noticed my HCG levels were significantly low, under almost 100. So they did two ultrasounds and found nothing. This is so hard to deal with and go through. I will survive, as of now, I'm watching movies, eating chocolate and planning the next few days/months carefully to have another pregnancy that WILL BE SUCCESSFULL!

[by jcsocal_BZCL]

I am so sorry for you ladies. We are here any time you need us. The ladies here are a wonderful support system. (((((big hugs)))))
 
P.S. If you want to post on the board here, it is better to choose "New Topic" and then add your post. That way more of the ladies will see it and be able to respond to it.

[by happypris]

Around my ovulation time I had pain in my ovaries/abdomen and upper
thighs. A week and a half before my period was due I had a spot of
blood. This just appeared once.
My period was late about a week. I was having sore breasts, lower back
pain, raised temperature, heart burn, utter fatigue, etc--basically
LOTS of signs...(I guess the missed period made me notice these
"signs"." Then a couple days later I felt like I was getting my period.
However, there was just a tiny bit of light blood and then nothing the
rest of the day. I took a pregnancy test at the end of the day,
thinking..hmmm....implantation bleeding? The test just showed a few
dots where the positive line would be (it was a plus/minus sign test)
and the next morning I happened to glance at the test on the counter
and there was a faint line. (I know...hours later,but it was weird to
see it there and made me wonder.) Then I started getting bleeding, but
it kept coming slowly and just didn't seem like a normal period like I
have had for the past 5 months. My lower back pain was different too.
Now I am having a lot of blood. The morning that the blood started, I
got a blood test and doc said it was negative. But was this an early
miscarriage? I am breastfeeding a 9 month old by the way and not using
any form of birth control. Thank you for any help you can offer. I feel like I'll never know if it was a miscarriage or not.

[by Mommy again!?!]

I recently found out that I am pregnant again. Should be exciting but I recently had a miscarriage (end of May beginning of June 2009) I am about 4-6 wks along and im worried it will happen again. I have a 2 yr old boy whom I had a high risk pregnancy with. He is an amazing, active, healthy little boy!
My concern is that this pregnancy will end up like my last. So im trying not to get to excited about it. I have my first appt on July 21st with my OB/GYN. I asked my husband to come with me for support. I have been having restless nights for 4 nights now and feel drained. I keep having dreams about having another miscarriage. then I have dreams about having twins (my 2 yr old was a twin but his twin was nonviable). It's driving me a bit insane!
Dont know what to do or expect.
Any advice?

[by tnmom1976]

I wanted to say thanks for everyone who has replied to my post everyone has been supportive of me I lost a handsome little boy at 29 weeks on march 23rd 09 he was born still and I miss him very much..I have a great 9 year old daughter who was born at 28 weeks and is perfect in every way but I miss my son very much. Thanks everyone