How can I prevent

Wed Jan 02, 2013 6:31 pm

being bitter with those who get pg so easily. DH and I have been trying for a year and 3 months with only a chemical pregnancy to show for it. On Christmas day, my SIL and Stepbro announced their second pregnancy (my nephew just turned 1 in Novmeber). I am really having trouble with this.

Mama to McKenna and Rilee, and Angel Babies Brady (2008), Kendall (2012), and Casey (2013).

Wed Jan 02, 2013 9:46 pm

Sending big hugs your way!!!!

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Thu Jan 03, 2013 8:50 am

I am not even actively trying to preg at this time and I still cringe when people tell me they are preg. It sucks, esp when its been hard for you. You just have to smile and brush it off. I don't think you are any less happy for them, but it hurts.

Take care and talk to us as much as you need to

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Fri Jan 04, 2013 4:24 pm

I know exactly how you feel! Although I am very happy to find out that others are pregnant (imagine a world where everyone had trouble TTC - how horrible would that be?), I also end up feeling very sad about my situation.

I can't think of anything that stops the initial feeling of pain, but something that has helped me in my general mental state is this:

I think about how there is always someone worse off than me. I have no children and have never been pregnant, and the only way I could possibly get pregnant is through advanced fertility procedures. However, the good thing about my situation is I can afford those procedures (currently). There are others out there in my situation who can't afford those procedures.

Me 39, DH 37
TTC #1 since Aug 2011
IVF Feb 2013 - no eggs retrieved.
1st IUI scheduled for May 2013

Fri Jan 25, 2013 6:49 pm

That's a good outlook. Unfortunately, I've been cursed with a lack of optimism. I'm like my father in that way.

My hubby has GREAT insurance at the present and has been covering my IUI's. They cover 80% of the medicines too. I'm just afraid it won't work. I definitely can't afford IVF or adoption.

I do have two children, and for that I'm grateful....but I don't feel like my family's complete. Many people said (which kind of offended me) "go get a pet." I don't like animals that much, so this is not a good solution for me.

My pastor always tells us to look at the good in things, and I'm trying VERY hard!

Mama to McKenna and Rilee, and Angel Babies Brady (2008), Kendall (2012), and Casey (2013).

Sat Jan 26, 2013 7:49 pm

I know that waiting and not knowing what's going to happen is difficult. Many of us TTC (you and me) have very real challenges that we have to face. And we all have some good days and some bad days in facing those challenges. I really hope that you will be able to complete your family soon

Me 39, DH 37
TTC #1 since Aug 2011
IVF Feb 2013 - no eggs retrieved.
1st IUI scheduled for May 2013

Tue Jan 29, 2013 8:32 am

Cerilly, you offer great advice! Good luck to the both of you.

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