In tears.

Mon Jul 02, 2012 9:11 pm

It seems that what I thought was just a rough period was a m/c. I thought it was unusual but til now did not think it was anything. But I am passing alot of tissue still. AF ended Saturday then all the sudden spotting and tissue. It hurts even more because we were supose to be ttc and it is on hold. I am not even telling DH. Heck of all our loses he only knows about one.

Steph. Mother of Eva-15,Jordan-10, Christopher-9, Abigail-6,and a angel son Joshua. Host of Pregnancy and Infant Lose board. Mummieeva@yahoo.com

Thu Jul 05, 2012 9:51 pm

I told DH and he did not belive me. I am so angry at him right now. Why can he not just hold me and comfort me.

Steph. Mother of Eva-15,Jordan-10, Christopher-9, Abigail-6,and a angel son Joshua. Host of Pregnancy and Infant Lose board. Mummieeva@yahoo.com

Thu Jul 05, 2012 11:56 pm

I'm so sorry, I wish I could give you a hug. In my experience with dh, distancing themselves from the issue is easier. I know how you feel. I am currently miscarrying my baby at 7 weeks. My dh says "I'm sorry, it's sad" and hug me. Nothing more, no extra cuddling, no extra rest for me, it's like something I should just get over. How do you ever get over losing a a baby? At 5 weeks or 50 years?! Men, I tell ya! Feel better soon, I'm so sorry about your loss.

Sun Jul 08, 2012 2:25 pm

Dear Steph,
I'm so sorry for the pregnancy loss you are going through and for the loss of your son Joshua. I'm happy to see you have 4 children with you. That is awesome! If this is a repeat miscarraige have you seen MFM specilist to make sure you don't have autoimmue or other health concerns that could be treated before you ttc again (Anti-phosphlipid blood work-up)? After I lost my baby James (preterm, 24wks gestation), I immediatly made MFM consult for my husband and I to get information. It was very helpful for me to have a pregnancy plan with the MFM, so we will do everything possible for a healthy pregnancy this time. Also, it was a relief to have the pre-conception anti-phospholipid and anti-lupus antibody testing.

I hope you and your husband can be supportive for each other. I can't imagine trying to go through this emotional rollercoaster without full support of each other for each other. Huggs!
Natalie (James's mom)

Sun Jul 08, 2012 6:56 pm

Natalie , this is not a back to back one. I tend to have had others in the past. Always before 6wks. Most of them I just lose and home and then carry on the best I can. I think it just hurts that because I had not been to the doctor DH thinks it is all in my head. That I was not even pregnant. We are not talking at the moment. But we will work through it I am sure. Thank you ladies.

Steph. Mother of Eva-15,Jordan-10, Christopher-9, Abigail-6,and a angel son Joshua. Host of Pregnancy and Infant Lose board. Mummieeva@yahoo.com

Thu Jul 12, 2012 12:53 pm

i REALLY and truly do not mean to sound heartless or insensitive, but you have FOUR children and are trying to have more??? count those four little blessings and be done with it!!! of course it hurts to lose a child, but think of the women like me who are 29 yrs old and lost one and can not have ANY at all. if i had ONE child id be the happiest woman on earth, much less FOUR. i am very sorry for your loss, god knows i have felt that heartache, but maybe this is gods way of telling u to be grateful, and happy with what u already have? im sorry if this sounds cruel, i really dont mean for it to

Wed Jul 25, 2012 11:18 pm

i REALLY and truly do not mean to sound heartless or insensitive, but you have FOUR children and are trying to have more??? count those four little blessings and be done with it!!! of course it hurts to lose a child, but think of the women like me who are 29 yrs old and lost one and can not have ANY at all. if i had ONE child id be the happiest woman on earth, much less FOUR. i am very sorry for your loss, god knows i have felt that heartache, but maybe this is gods way of telling u to be grateful, and happy with what u already have? im sorry if this sounds cruel, i really dont mean for it to

And who are you to dictate how many children a person should have? Yes it hurts to lose a child, but it does not hurt any less if you already have children or you do not. With one post to your name I cannot think that you know her story, her struggles, her anything. I am sorry if you can truly not have children, but that does not give you the right to dictate anyone elses reproductive life. "Sorry if this sounds cruel". Nope, doesn't sound, it is cruel and ignorant.

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Fri Aug 31, 2012 2:41 am

i REALLY and truly do not mean to sound heartless or insensitive, but you have FOUR children and are trying to have more??? count those four little blessings and be done with it!!! of course it hurts to lose a child, but think of the women like me who are 29 yrs old and lost one and can not have ANY at all. if i had ONE child id be the happiest woman on earth, much less FOUR. i am very sorry for your loss, god knows i have felt that heartache, but maybe this is gods way of telling u to be grateful, and happy with what u already have? im sorry if this sounds cruel, i really dont mean for it to

WOW, you just might be THAT heartless. maybe you unable to have any is Gods way of telling you NO...wow, WOW. you just blew me away, i just HAD to log in!

to OP, i'm so sorry mama. i know it's been over a month since this post, but i hope you're doing okay. *hugs*

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