It's been a little over a month since I lost my first pregnancy at 8 weeks. I had had extremely light spotting, which didn't worry me since I know spotting can be normal. But once it got heavier, then I went to the ER. At that visit, my hcg levels were still normal so they put me on bed rest. However, I didn't know this at the time, but they couldn't see the baby when they did the ultrasound (even though I had just had one 2 weeks ago that showed up perfectly). At this point, I kinda already knew that I had m/c, but tried to stay positive for my DF. When we went back and they checked me again, my hcg levels had plummeted to 300. I was surprisingly okay with it all, but that's probably because I felt that it was going to happen. The doctor told me that as early as I was in the pregnancy, there was more-than-likely something "wrong" with the baby and my body was just getting rid of it. I know that doesn't exactly sound nice, but it helped me deal with it. I just had to keep telling myself that I did nothing wrong and to trust my body. I had a natural m/c, which also seemed to help me. The thought of having a d&c scared me. About a week after it happened, I broke down and cried for about 45 minutes, but after that I just moved on. I asked about us TTC again and the doctor said we could go home that day and try, if we really wanted to.
Give yourself some time to mourn, but know that this isn't your fault. It is devastating to lose a pregnancy, but your body knows what it's doing. Good luck in TTC again!