I wish ....

Mon Jun 25, 2012 3:38 pm

My dh didn't have the family he did or
I could delete , and block them out of my life .
I am not saying the family I come from is perfect .
But I am saying ;( its one thing they are "always"
Getting involved in crazy stuff , id list it but i don't want
People looking at my kids like that or anyway .
I can over look the crazy at times w/some things , it's the
Fact they all always go off the handle if you get me or know
The type ? To be honest I am considering leaving my dh - I
Would never ever ask him to pick . And just one example ...
How some of them made fun of our first ds speach issues or
Bc he had red hair he isn't my dh son ( red hair runs in my family)
I've been w/dh 13 years between his moms abuse and his sister witch they
Won't cop to bc it's just verbal or dh's one sorta sil lying to me pretending to
Be my friend . And lying about sooo much stuff . I just don't know ;( like bc I've been with dh since I was a kid like maybe I don't know any better if that makes sense .
I can't talk to my family about it they have wanted to report a few members of his family to the police , and I have a few friends but my BFF mom works for child service
And she has seen and heard it and she would never take action unless I said I've had enough bc she doesn't want to hurt me but the point is she's trained for this ,and she saying it isn't right ; witch I know . I just don't know what to do I feel very lonely .
About it .

Mon Jun 25, 2012 3:41 pm

I am just tired of them acting like it's everyone else ...and it's not like that ..

Fri Jun 29, 2012 4:43 pm

Oh hun I am so sorry! Your spouse should be the one to back you up and step out in front in matters like this. Once you get to a certain point of takin all the crap all it takes is one little thing to set u off. Have you had a heart to heart with your hubby? Does he know how bad things are?

Susie----mama to 8 and CL of large families

Sat Jun 30, 2012 9:15 pm

I am sorry you have been going through this. I agree with Susie, your DH should step up and put his foot down. Do they ever make these comments and such on facebook or in public where there are other witnesses? Verbal abuse is just as dangerous as physical and the effects can last longer. I hope you get some support soon. Is there anywhere else you can turn to?

Sat Jul 07, 2012 9:58 pm

I just wanted to say I really didn't express this well at all it came out in a big cluster mess . And things from 13 years running . They do it Facebook and on this site . They all lie a lot about things . And twist things . if I speak on it or say anything In defense how his sister or other members of his family I am mean . Or they pain this picture is everyone but them . Everyone who knows them sees it not that that matters to me , it's the fact they try and con me that stings me . If they'd be themselves and not lie so much I might practice some under standing if they didn't go off the handle about me on their fb bc I am against people beating their kids and abusing them in other ways it bothers everyone knows , but keeps it quite as to not make waves . If they are like that but don't act like they are some family when they ride with gangs and such . And bc I do PTA and baseball mom I am some dumbie you can run game on . I am rambling I don't usually discuss this w/anyone and if I could go back I wouldn't have posted this but they do it to me all the time . My main issue is they all go off the handle . ( some ) it's become cancerous to his family in people see it . It's so complicated thing . Dh and I will be fine regardless of anything . We have a certain life we want to give are kids , and some of these people are reason why not the hole reason . It's so complicated . It could only be civil ; for now and as far as I can see .

Sun Jul 08, 2012 8:25 pm

If you see abuse call the chld abuse hotline. You do not have to leave your name. I beg you to. I wish to God some one had called on my dad. Maybe I would not have half the issues I do now if someone had done it. It was swept under the rug and never mentioned. Abuse hurts all parents. Because of parents who abuse thier kids and end up killing them any time a child dies at home parents get the 3rd degree. Atleast here in GA. I lost my kids for almost 2 months just because my son died at home without an adult that was not me or DH. I think you need to remove these people from your life also. Block them on facebook, block them from your life, and make husband deal with them if he does not cut the ties. Forgive me if I seem harsh. But I have been thinking alot about how my life would be diffrent if someone had stood up for me just once.

Steph. Mother of Eva-15,Jordan-10, Christopher-9, Abigail-6,and a angel son Joshua. Host of Pregnancy and Infant Lose board. Mummieeva@yahoo.com

Wed Jul 11, 2012 2:03 pm

I don't wish, I dream. People don't fully appreciate those who are close until they lose them. So I focus on the present and live for the future. Because today becomes tomorrow's reality.

Jealousy kills - first you, then others. But a life of contentment is full of happiness and abundantly shares that with others. If you are troubled much, the source may very well be discontentment. Discontentment results in torment to your self, and makes you your own worst tormentor. I wish to be the one who has mastered the art of contentment, where I may have areas of dissatisfaction but live in a general frame of contentment and joy.

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Fri Jul 13, 2012 2:43 pm

It's all documented by everyone who knows them; members of his family & friends have called . weren't harsh at all .
I expressed this and it came out not as gental as I'd put it in words out loud .
Some not all are verbal abbusive to these kids . Then the rest of the family become verbal abussive to any adult that doesn't agree . They have already been in trouble for physical abussive . I wont get in a verbal match w/any Of them any more. I just say/type ok . I won't-/can't won't get into with some one who has mental problems . And it's clear . It's a hot mess really. I won't call and I could have 2 separate videos my son shot while dh was on the phone , and the stuff in them is awful . Personally , I am not going to call . They are system ppl in and out of the stystem . 14 kids all different parents wellfair no jobs , holidays & birthdays come from everyone else in the family . They say my dh family has a problem with them having all these kids and that's a big lie - it's the fact the barely take care of them . I don't want to be involved it's just they post bs ( everyone knows it ) all over the place . They all come across selfish like noone thinks of the kids .