Wow... that is rediculous if you ask me, to have to go through 3 miscarriage before they look into it??? I would be livid if my doctor told me that!! I had a missed miscarriage at 19 weeks with my first pregnancy and he sent me to see a genetic counselor as soon as I could be seen! Turns out I did have a genetic disorder, but all I have to do is take extra folic acid and my next pregnancy should be successful. So, definiately go get a second opinion. I don't know why in the world a doctor would want to subject a women to more miscarriages instead of trying to find the cause!! I barely made it through the one miscarriage I had without going into a deep depression!!
I also know exactly how you feel. I, too, felt so responsible for not getting pregnant at a young age while trying to finish school like so many others. I was so mad at life... the unfairness of it all. My fiance's sister and sister-in-law are both pregnant now, and it makes me wonder what I did to deserve such a devestating blow to my life. It makes me wonder why other women are able to have babies with no problems (no problems getting pregnant, and no miscarriages for them)... I've always wanted to be a mother, always!!!! But, the way I look at it now: we will be the ones who won't take our pregnancies or babies for granted like some women do!! I know of two women who have at least 4 children, and they do not have custody of one of them! It makes me so mad!!
Just keep your head up. It will happen for us
just go out there and talk to someone who will actually help you and not tell you that you have to lose another baby to get help!!
~Crystal~ Trying to be first time mother
First pregnancy ended in loss as missed miscarriage at 19 weeks.