missing out

Fri Dec 07, 2012 9:08 am

Hi--I was wondering if anyone had their c-sec under general anesthesia, and had a hard time dealing with it. Everything went so fast, I didn't really have time to process it. I went in for an appt. at 10:10 am to check my b/p and they sent me to the hospital to be induced. Before they even started, baby's heart rate kept dropping, so they said he needed to come out now and I had him at 1:25 pm. I carried him for 9 months but I feel I wasn't even there for his birth. Everyone got to see him before me. I'm so thankful that he's healthy, but it's like I'm missing something. I had my 6 week pp appt. yesterday. I asked my OB some questions about his birth, and my dh seemed to think I was being weird.

Fri Dec 07, 2012 7:00 pm

Hi--I was wondering if anyone had their c-sec under general anesthesia, and had a hard time dealing with it. Everything went so fast, I didn't really have time to process it. I went in for an appt. at 10:10 am to check my b/p and they sent me to the hospital to be induced. Before they even started, baby's heart rate kept dropping, so they said he needed to come out now and I had him at 1:25 pm. I carried him for 9 months but I feel I wasn't even there for his birth. Everyone got to see him before me. I'm so thankful that he's healthy, but it's like I'm missing something. I had my 6 week pp appt. yesterday. I asked my OB some questions about his birth, and my dh seemed to think I was being weird.

Hi redpandasrule,

The same happened to me with my twins. They had to get them out asap but I was just so happy that everything turned out ok that nothing else mattered to me. I think in my case the skin to skin contact helped me bond a lot.

I hope someone else can be of more help.

Best wishes,

Pia

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Pia Pickett
Babyzone.com
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Fri Dec 07, 2012 7:23 pm

Same thing happened with my first child. His heartrate started dropping so they rushed me to have an emergency c-section and I don't know if it was the drugs or tiredness but I slept through most of it and I don't remember pretty much anything. Even after I delivered I slept for a while and when I woke up DH was holding our son crying saying that he was jaundice and had to stay in the special care nursery. Any questions I had DH was able to answer but I do feel cheated out of his birth. When it was time for me to have my 2nd it was a scheduled repeat section and my main request was the drugs they used to numb me would not make me drowsy or miss any part of her birth. They did make me take a short nap after birth so that the drugs can wear off before they brought her to my room but I remember every second of it.

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Fri Jan 04, 2013 2:53 pm

I had to be put all the way out with my daughter due them not getting my epaduril( no idea how to spell that. and the worst part was i had waited to find out the sex till after the birth so i was the last to know and she was taken to the NICU before i could see her so a few hours later i got to see her but not hold her for a day or so then she spent 7 day in the hospital and she was on lights so only getting to hold her for feeding was so hard and i feel like i wasnt connected to her when we came home a day and half later i was reamitted to the hospital with complacation and was in for 7 more day and at the time the H1N1 was going around so the hospital would not let her see me or come in by the end i was so greatfull that we were ok but sometimes i grt sad thinking about what i missed but all that matter is i have a great daughter

Tue Jan 15, 2013 5:54 pm

I did. With my 4th I went under general too. My baby was born at 32 weeks and I had no idea what was going to happen when he was born. My water had been broke for 5 days before he was born so I was afraid he was septic LOL. As I came to, I repeated over and over 'is he breathing on his own?'

Turned out, I had a uterine window (also had my 3rd by c section) so it was a good thing they did a c section. Had I tried a VBAC I would have had a uterine rupture. I asked my husband lots of questions about the birth; he was in there since they put me under after they brought him in... it was a decision made after because I didnt go numb with the spinal. I had delivered a 3 lb 13 oz 15 inch baby boy who was perfect in every way. He WAS breathing on his own. He was doing great. I dont dwell on the fact that I was asleep for his birth because I know it could have been so much worse. Im just glad it was OK... he was OK.

Sun Feb 17, 2013 4:47 pm

My first born was born by emergency section and I had to be put completely under. It was quite a shock for me to even end up in the OR, nevermind having to be asleep throughout the entire surgery. I had a hard time dealing with it for a long time. I felt like I had missed everything. I think it's a very normal feeling. I pictured it all differently than it ended up as, and I had trouble dealing with the feelings of loss I had over the birth. Having a successful VBAC with my second born really eliminated those feelings for me. I felt at that point like they each had their own story, and I was in way powerless over how it would all turn out, but I had done my best and given them all I could. I think it's those feelings of self confidence and acceptance that will get us through.