Interesting article

Sat Jun 23, 2012 11:59 pm

My doula from last pg posted this article on fb. I'm curious to hear others' thoughts on it! Did anyone have experiences like this in previous births? I have to think about it a little more to form my opinion

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3209737/
(for non-link-clickers: basically the writer is saying that women need a moment after giving birth to refocus themselves to meet their baby)

embee/Monica Co-Leader Nov 2012 DDC embee.bzcl@gmail.com

Tue Jun 26, 2012 7:10 pm

Hey, what ever mom is comfortable with is what should be done. Me personally, no one will ever catch another child of mine. That was one of the best parts about having no one there Catching my own baby was better then a break to me!

Stephanie, mom to:
Steven, 3-23-07
Seth, 4-08-09
Samuel, 16 w 6 d, 6-9-11
Shane, 5-25-12

Tue Jun 26, 2012 7:34 pm

This article makes me feel better; I always thought I was just a horrible person because I did not want to hold my children immediately after birth. I felt like I needed some time to rest and feel in control physically before holding them. I still remember how utterly exhausted I felt after ds's birth and how terrified I was that I was going to drop him. The IVs and the reclining position didn't make it easy to bond with him or her. With my dd, I asked my dh to hold her for me, and I felt like I bonded easier during that time with her b/c I was able to see her and touch her without the fear of dropping her.

Wed Jun 27, 2012 11:25 am

My natural birth was a waterbirth so the baby had to be brought up out of the water and held. I definitely was still in my own world from labor and needed a moment to transition but my baby was blue and not breathing so I did not get it. My MW had me start talking to him while they worked to get him breathing on my chest. I was in a kind of shock so my MW had to tell me to do something as I was silent. Anyhow he started breathing and was fine So even if I had a land birth we would not have been able to let him lay there until I was ready to pick him up as he needed a bit of help. I think the idea is nice if someone wants to do it this way. I think you should just do what comes natural to you when the time comes. There is no right or wrong way to greet your new baby.

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Wed Jun 27, 2012 7:45 pm

If anyone asked me, I'd have said that I held my DD right after she was born. (natural hospital birth) But then after reading this article and thinking back, we had asked for them to delay clamping her cord, so they let her lay between my legs on the bed for a few minutes before clamping it and handing her to me. It didn't feel like a "delay" I guess, cuz I don't think of it that way, but really it was. It did allow me to sort of catch my breath and regroup mentally after the giant effort of pushing. I do remember being *very* shaky and worried about dropping her! I was the first person to hold her, though. I think that part is more important to me.

Like a few of you have mentioned, I do think it should be whatever the mom is comfortable with, but in the moment it's nice to have thought through what you (think you will) want in advance.

This time around I'm planning a home waterbirth!

embee/Monica Co-Leader Nov 2012 DDC embee.bzcl@gmail.com

Fri Jun 29, 2012 4:32 am

Hey, everyone. This is my first time posting on this site, so if this reply lands in the wrong spot, please forgive me. I am trying to comment on using Subutex throughout pregnancy and I want to tell other moms my terrifying story and why I will never take this drug during pregnancy again, ever. It was March, 2006, and I was in the hospital having a planned c-section to deliver my 8 pound baby girl. I had been taking around 24mg Subutex throughout my pregnancy and doctors had me stop taking it only 2 days before surgery. When my baby girl emerged, she cried loud so I thought everything was great. Almost immediately she was rushed from the room and I was told she "wasn't behaving." With that , they closed me up and took me to my room. Long story short, my daughter suffered terrible, probably painful withdrawal symptoms from the Subutex. She was exhibiting every symptom. She stopped breathing on her own and was placed on life-support and within 24 hours she was on a plane headed to San Francisco, UCSF. She was in intensive care being weaned slowly with morpheine and phenobarbital to keep her calm. All together, my baby spent a month in the hospital. I never got to hold her after birth and for a long time I didn't even know her eye color. I went through hell physically too. I had just had surgery and the Subutex was still in my system, preventing me from getting ANY pain relief. I cried in pain. Mental and physical agony. My daughter made it, and she is now 6 years old and apparently suffered no long term effects from her terrible ordeal. For any mom considering taking this drug through the whole pregnancy, please be careful. I have heard stories from both sides of the coin. Some babies go through nothing, while others go through withdrawal. I am currently pregnant again, and on Subutex. But as soon as I found out, I immediately began weaning off. I can't go through that again. Good luck in your decision.

Tue Jul 03, 2012 11:45 am

Hey, everyone. This is my first time posting on this site, so if this reply lands in the wrong spot, please forgive me. I am trying to comment on using Subutex throughout pregnancy and I want to tell other moms my terrifying story and why I will never take this drug during pregnancy again, ever. It was March, 2006, and I was in the hospital having a planned c-section to deliver my 8 pound baby girl. I had been taking around 24mg Subutex throughout my pregnancy and doctors had me stop taking it only 2 days before surgery. When my baby girl emerged, she cried loud so I thought everything was great. Almost immediately she was rushed from the room and I was told she "wasn't behaving." With that , they closed me up and took me to my room. Long story short, my daughter suffered terrible, probably painful withdrawal symptoms from the Subutex. She was exhibiting every symptom. She stopped breathing on her own and was placed on life-support and within 24 hours she was on a plane headed to San Francisco, UCSF. She was in intensive care being weaned slowly with morpheine and phenobarbital to keep her calm. All together, my baby spent a month in the hospital. I never got to hold her after birth and for a long time I didn't even know her eye color. I went through hell physically too. I had just had surgery and the Subutex was still in my system, preventing me from getting ANY pain relief. I cried in pain. Mental and physical agony. My daughter made it, and she is now 6 years old and apparently suffered no long term effects from her terrible ordeal. For any mom considering taking this drug through the whole pregnancy, please be careful. I have heard stories from both sides of the coin. Some babies go through nothing, while others go through withdrawal. I am currently pregnant again, and on Subutex. But as soon as I found out, I immediately began weaning off. I can't go through that again. Good luck in your decision.

Hello momtobe2012 and welcome to BabyZone. I am so sorry to hear about what your baby had to go through.

I think a better place to post your story is in our Pregnancy in General board: pregnancy-in-general-f416.html

I hope your little one is doing better now and your new baby will be ok.

Best wishes,

Pia

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