Sudden Death of Finance While Pregnant..

Tue Feb 07, 2012 5:58 pm

My finance died suddenly on December 11th. He was only 38 and in good health. We think that it was a heart attack or aneurysm, because it happened so quickly and sudden without warning. But we won’t know for sure until the autopsy comes back. He wasn’t sick, but did complain on day that week about have chest pains when he got off of work. But he brushed it off and told me it was nothing. I am devastated and afraid. I didn’t think this would happen in a million years. Now I only have 36 days until I deliver our son, who I must now raise alone. I have a 15 year old son, whom I raised as a single parent. I never ever would have expected this to happen. I am doing a lot better than I was in December, but it is still hard. Please give me some encouraging words ladies. Thanks.

Fri Feb 10, 2012 4:18 pm

jet5446

I am so sorry for you loss. We are all here for you. I will keep you and your son in my thoughts.


Ashley

Ashley
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Sat Feb 11, 2012 1:21 am

I am so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how horrid that must feel. Please take good care of yourself & you baby. I hope that you have a good support system around you. Maybe see if there is a group for young widows with kids near you?

Tue Feb 14, 2012 10:09 pm

I am so sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how horrid that must feel. Please take good care of yourself & you baby. I hope that you have a good support system around you. Maybe see if there is a group for young widows with kids near you?

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I was going to suggest something similar. Making sure you have a good support system is definitely one way to help get you and your son through this trying time. I'm so sorry for your loss. *hugs*

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Wed Feb 22, 2012 3:12 pm

Wow! What an awful thing to have happen. I'm so very sorry to hear about your loss. I couldn't imagine losing my husband. You have to be strong now for yourself and for your kids. They need their Mommy. You will find that in time it will get a little easier...but the questions and ''what-ifs" will always haunt your thoughts. You have to believe in yourself. Know that you can deal with the pain, even though it will always be there. I am not going to lie to you and tell you that everything will get better soon, it is a long journey. But, ultimately it's all about how you choose to deal with the loss. How you choose to move forward without letting go of the love you felt. I know you can do this! It's a long and trying process and with the children involved, I know it must be exhausting. Just always remember to be the best that you can be for those that you still have with you. In time, things we become more clear. For now, just take it all one moment at a time. That's all we can really do.

I too am grieving a loss. I lost my Mom last May, to causes that still aren't even fully understood. I have many unanswered questions. She was also very young (44), and wasn't sick or on medication or anything. Dealing with such a sudden loss of someone you are so close with and depend on for so much and love so dearly, is really overwhelming. I know. She and I were like best friends. The day I lost her I thought my world was coming to an end. But then I remembered my beautiful children, and my husband and our life. I know that you also have other people who need you to be strong. I have watched my Mom's husband sit at home and grieve sadly for almost 10 months. We are all hurting, but he is the only one who isn't moving forward. It's awful to see him like this. Trust me, you will be overcome sadness and overwhelmed by grief if you don't take care of yourself. You sound like you are on the right path, though. You sound clear and calm and like you are on the right path. Keep going strong. Reach out to help in your area, too. That was a great suggestion Best of luck! Post whenever you need to talk.

Mon Aug 13, 2012 9:28 pm

Your a inspiration to us all!!
I'm very proud of you, I would probably isolate myself and reach out to no one, your so strong I can feel it.

You have truly inspired me and I just know both your sons are gonna have a strong mom like you!!!

God Bless you and your children

Mommy to Alexis (9) Ariel (8) Ricardo (1)

Mon Feb 04, 2013 9:45 pm

I am really sorry. What happened is very awful. You deserve the best support, and love all around you. I hope that you are getting that support, and that you are ok as much as one can possibly be when such things happen so hard. I will think of you and pray a lot. I hope that you have some groups, and friends that are helping to keep you in an ok place despite the hardness I know you are going through. My love is with you, and praying that you will have financial support as well if that has been hard too. You are strong to reach out. I don't know that I would be able to physically move, but I know you have kids so you need to be strong. My heart is with what you are experiencing. Take lots of tender loving care, as much as you can muster. You are amazing for who you are and what you are dealing with. Keep reaching out and know that there is a loving community there for you, and there is love all around you. Knowing you are not alone with this grief is important for you. Getting the care from loving humans is so important so try to stay connected and when you can get face to face contact with loving souls. I will be sending lots of love. You are in my thoughts and you are so so brave.