Christmas/Birthday Issues

Sun Nov 25, 2012 12:51 pm

Anyone else concerned that our LO will have birthdays the same time as Christmas? How are you planning on making each special or will you just marry it all together? I'm kinda of concerned because I don't want her to feel left out at birthday time and always get birthday gifts wrapped in holiday paper. Do you think it will be impossible to have birthday parties around the holidays?

Sarah

Sun Nov 25, 2012 1:01 pm

I have a nephew and a good friend's son with birthday's around Christmas and both of their parents have made efforts to separate the two. They do birthday parties prior to the holidays and have requested that nothing be associated with Christmas. My friend doesn't even decorate the tree until after her son's birthday party so no one is confused. When we lived out of state I would send my nephew's birthday present in a different package so he wouldn't be receiving it in the same batch as his Christmas presents.

I think the key is setting the expectation with friends and family.

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 1:26 pm

I think about it all the time. I remember there was a boy I grew up with who's birthday was Christmas Eve. We all thought he must be so lucky cuz you would think he would of gotten twice as many gifts. But no he hated it. I really hope Em comes mid month just so there is at least a week separating the two. When ever she does decide to show up I will try my hardest to keep them 2 separate events.

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 1:52 pm

I have definitely thought about it for sure. My bithday is Jan 6th (ukranian Xmas eve) and my birthday was never associated with Christmas. I LOVE the idea of not putting up the tree until after the child's bday. It would be tough to do if the baby was born on Xmas eve or Xmas day though. Lol
I guess we can't control it either way so we just have to go with the flow and be thankful for a happy, healthy baby no matter what day he/she is born on.

There is bound to be one baby born on Xmas day in our group......wonder who it will be. Lol

Sun Nov 25, 2012 2:11 pm

I guess I should have mentioned that I come from a ukranian family and we celebrate ukranian Xmas. Oops. Lol

Sun Nov 25, 2012 2:31 pm

*lurking from April
My oldest daughters b'day is Dec. 15 which is my moms b'day so it is already a holiday. She will be 8 and I don't think she feels left out at all. We have always waited until the 15th to buy the tree (as my moms b'day present) and we have been having a small party or gathering for her b'day. She loves taking treats to school as well. This year it will be reindeer cookies made out of Nutter butter cookies. And she gets her gifts separate usually wrapped in her favorite character.
I have this problem with my youngest as her b'day is on Halloween. This year we had the normal family and friends gather at the house and took all the kids trick or treating and then had food and cake. She loved it. I think as long as you make them feel important it won't matter what holiday is at the same time.

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 3:14 pm

Lurker* My oldest was due on Christmas eve(which was my mothers birthday). She came Dec 19th. My third was due in January and was born December 18th(day before his big sister turned 6). We try to have a party before their birthday. Often we do it the weekend before.At the very least they do a slumber party. It does not bother either one of the about the holiday paper on the gifts. We never do combined gifts for both holidays unless it is something very big like a cell phone or computer. We have always stessed that their birthdays are very special to family. Not had any issues really with it other then sometimes thier friends are out of town for the party.

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 3:23 pm

My sister was born on Dec 25th. I remember we were always jealous cause she got way more gifts than we did. She always complained about it tho, and especially the fact that it wasn't really "her" day. I guess it really depends on the point of view.
By the way, nowadays, she is the only one that gets a bday present and a xmas gift. My other sis and I we get a xmas gift and a card or phone call for our bdays...

Ludivine

Sun Nov 25, 2012 6:01 pm

When they get older I'll let them decide if they want to celebrate on the day or if they want to pick another random day and we celebrate then.

Totally up to them. I prefer summer birthdays, so I hope they pick that. Those I know how to do! lol I'm not sure how I'd do a party when it's cold and we can't do water stuff.

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 8:07 pm

I'm not too worried since my LO is due early in the month. My sister's bday is Dec 10th and was always kept seperate from the holiday. I dnt recall her ever being mad or disliking it.

Sun Nov 25, 2012 8:16 pm

My family doesn't celebrate Christmas. That is not an issue. For me it is the fact we can't have a 'kids party' as non of his friends will come accept for our religious friends who also don't celebrate.

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 9:14 pm

*Lurking*
My ODD b-day is Dec 17th. I was soooo worried about this before she was born. She is still young (about to turn 4) so maybe when she gets older she will feel different but for now she is head over heels for her b-day being right before Christmas. She loves having the tree up (she also has a b-day tree, just her not YDD) to feel special. We have her party early to mid Dec and she gets separate gifts. I told her we could do a half b-day in the summer and she is insisting on one when its cold/snowy before Christmas. So far all my worrying was for nothing She is just a Christmas junkie just like her mama and loving her b-day gets to be in the mix.

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Mon Nov 26, 2012 11:27 am

My actual due date is Christmas day. I'm not too worried about it. We will have a party either before or after for friends and then it will be even more likely that family will be around for their birthday so we are okay with it. My twins share every single birthday with each other so this baby will share with a holiday so they will be all well versed in having to share with someone or something.

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Mon Nov 26, 2012 12:00 pm

I don't have so many issues while she is still young because I don't think she'd mind having a bday close to christmas, but my concern comes in when she starts preschool/kindergarten. Our school year runs from mid Jan - beginning Dec and our summer vacation starts in the beginning of dec. So her birthday will ALWAYS be when many families are away, which would mean her friends would be away too. I've already decided that if she wants to celebrate her bday in November sometime, that's OK with me for sure!

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Mon Nov 26, 2012 12:17 pm

DH and I have talked about this, and we think for the important birthday years (or until Daniella is old enough not to care) we are going to celebrate her birthday on her half birthday- just a small party or something over the summer.

Tue Nov 27, 2012 8:15 am

Lurker* I have heard of people doing a party in the summer for half birthdays. That way the child can get a party with friends around.

Steph. Mother of Eva-15,Jordan-10, Christopher-9, Abigail-6,and a angel son Joshua. Host of Pregnancy and Infant Lose board. Mummieeva@yahoo.com