Is it odd or tacky that I wan't to plan my own baby shower?

Sat Nov 24, 2012 5:25 pm

So my mother and grandmother don't mind hosting a baby shower for me, and I'm wanting to do all of the decorating because I want it to be perfect! I only plan on having one child, so I'm probably not going to have the chance to do this again. I have the idea in my head ready to go, I'm starting to design the invitations (I'm a little bit of a photoshop guru). I'm going with a woody owl theme, really cute! I also want to make a banner to hang up, cupcake toppers, some food labels so it will be a little fancy. I don't want a run of the mill plain jane walmart baby shower with just blue and boy all over it. I wanted to have lemonade with fresh lemons, and sweet tea, and all this cute junk that I'm getting way too excited over! I know my family would not plan such an extravagant baby shower, and it's not going to be that difficult because were going to be making it all, but does anyone find it weird that I want to plan it all? I keep hearing that "You shouldn't throw your own shower", and it's not that I'm throwing it, I just want to choose everything about it haha!

Sat Nov 24, 2012 10:13 pm

I wouldn't say it is the "norm" but my sister in law did a lot for hers. The other 2 sisters couldn't really afford much so she bought a lot of the food and stuff so it could be what she wanted. She also came to our little planning meetings and all that good stuff. The shower was at my house so it was a bit stressful for me to have her buying her own food but since she had a coed shower and had beer and stuff (and those guys could put away some serious drinks) and the sisters couldn't pitch in much money, it worked to have her by the beer and some of the food. I'll probably help my mom and sister with mine because I know that they are busy and the holidays make it even busier time to be planning!

Sat Nov 24, 2012 10:39 pm

LOL, I'm the same way. if I was getting a shower this time around i would want to plan basiclly the whole thing myself, I have way better taste and eye for detail then any of my family member's do who would be planning so I'd rather do it myself and just let them take the credit of 'throwing the shower'. Even if i gave them all the ideas I had, showed them pics and everything, it just wouldn't be done to the standard I would want. Not that I'm picky, but they always do things simple, cheap and generic with no thought into how it looks and I prefer a little more graceful, elegant and tasteful, i like it to look good and I love to make alot of stuff myself-pinterest is awesome!! I say if they don't mind then go ahead and do whatever you want for the shower yourself, i mean it is for you after all so it should reflect your taste, right!

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Sun Nov 25, 2012 1:04 am

I don't know, I think it's great! You know what you like more than anyone else would.

I had an interesting situation with my first... the family shower I got (because we only do for the firstborn) ended up being at my house (which is very odd). My sister and mom came over and decorated and brought the food, and everyone was in my house. I actually found it a bit stressfull, but that meant not having to take anything home because it was already there. Only thing was that they said they would clean up afterwards, and they only sort of did. I ended up vacuuming and sweeping, pulling down some of the decorations myself (they left them up because they thought it would be nice for me to see them for awhile). I'm not sure I would recommend that sort of thing... its stressfull having that many people in your house when you've just had a baby (we do showers after baby is born) and it is stressfull either way, even if you didn't have to clean up beforehand (they did that for me... although I am the type that wants to do it anyway, haha).

I think that if you want to be in charge of the decorating, that isn't tacky! Things arent' done traditionally anymore anywhere, and I think that's awesome! For example, co-ed showers! Have fun with it!

Mon Nov 26, 2012 10:31 am

I dont think its bad as long as you are still letting them help. My sisters couldnt wait to throw my shower with my DD but they also asked me what i liked and what kind of things i would want but also added some surprises. Its your baby! i say do what you want

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