Family is not happy :'( Rant/vent

Tue Dec 04, 2012 8:38 pm

Well told my mom and she basically told me to have an abortion, but that she would support me either way, and my husbin wants me to have one as well...once my mother in law finds out she will say the same... Considering we live with her, I guess it's time to find some low in come houses untill I am done with school. The only support I have is my friend Britt she's the only one who has said congratulations. Feel so alone... It just doesn't feel right to have an abortion after we lost our first baby before my son ( who is now 3yrs, we also have a daughter 20m) I doesn't feel right to have to have an abortion but I know that our family will be talking behind our back...when I first found out I was excited about having a third, now I am just worried about what everyone will say and that's what's pissing me off the most, just want to scream

I should also add that my Husbin is a newly recovering alcoholic, and we are working through it together and trying to fix our marriage at the same time

Thank you for any and all advise you can give me

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Tue Dec 04, 2012 10:43 pm

Stick to your guns! You recognized this baby for the blessing it is. If you are feeling overwhelmed there are churches that have free counceling, just google it and I'm sure you will find something. And they have connections to all of the organizations in the area that could help

Wed Dec 05, 2012 2:48 am

Oh hun, I can't even fathom my loved ones telling me to abort my flesh and blood growing inside me. We haven't told family because we know they won't be supportive but they would never tell us to get an abortion. That is so horrible!

My last pregnancy, my husband was not happy about. He resented me greatly and it really hurt our marriage. It took a lot if work for us to find ine another again. I encourage you to seek counseling both as a couple and each of you individually as well. Hugs!

~Kristen, mommy to

Emma 6.28.06 C/S Modified footling breech
Kaden 3.13.09 Hospital VBAC after 55 hr nat labor
Braxton 5.20.11 HBAC after 24 hr nat labor



*4 angels in heaven

Wed Dec 05, 2012 4:00 pm

I told my mom today that I couldn't do it, it might be right for some people but its not right for me, I know how I felt about the baby that we lost and about not having all those little moments with him or her, and I would feel so horrible with myself and so much regret doing it

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Wed Dec 05, 2012 4:31 pm

Lurking.

I'm so sorry you're going through this pain and pressure. An abortion would not "fix" anything - it would compound the problem. You would have more issues with your mom than you do now. I encourage you to google "crisis pregnancy" and your city. Many areas have centers that will not only listen to your concerns, but can give you community resources to help. I'm praying for you, your family, and your baby.

Missi Beth

Lillian Faye 11/6/06
Amelia Wren 8/6/11
Baby #3 due 7/2/13

Wed Dec 05, 2012 9:17 pm

That's the sad part my mom and I don't have issues, she's like my best friend, that's why it hurts so much but I am sticking to my guns I am not give up the chance to know this little one even if it is going to be a struggle. Love my little peanut

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Thu Dec 06, 2012 1:37 am

*visiting* Just remember like the previous posters said there are a lot of options out there for counciling. Use them and seek advice outside your family circles. There are so many wonderful open adoption options too. Ultimately it is your decision alone but make sure to use the resources available to you including BZ. Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Sarah

Thu Dec 06, 2012 3:44 am

Honey, they're gonna forget this was ever an issue once that baby is born! I don't believe UN abortion period, but it breaks my heart even more when there are girls like you being pressured by the ppl who are supposed to support you. If its truly a choice, it needs to be all yours. No one is ever really ready for the next one, but if we all waited for the perfect time, there would be no children. I hope you find the peace of mind that you understandably need during this time. you have nothing to be ashamed of.

Fri Dec 07, 2012 3:29 pm

You hang tight and do what it right for you in your heart. I too have been pressured to have an unwanted abortion, by the people who were supposed to care about me, and I refused because I knew it wasn't right for me. Never a day goes by that I regret my daughter's birth!! You do have some daunting issues though and you need to seek counceling as others have commented. This isn't going to be easy, but if you do what is right in your heart and seek help from your community I believe you can do this.

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.

Sat Dec 08, 2012 8:53 pm

My husband has decided to act like nothing is happening and is ignoring the whole thing, like it not happening and I am making it all up, but I plan on taking him to the first ultrasound. So he can see the baby and the heartbeat, then he will understand where I am coming form by not having an abortion

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