Help with Family Suggestions!!

Tue Jan 15, 2013 2:08 pm

My family is requesting that I name my daughter "Marge" after a deceased relative. They feel that it is a very special name because of our relative, but I feel that my child may be teased. They are not open to any alternatives to the name either (i.e. Margaret, Margery). What is everyone's opinion? Do you think my child will be teased or be upset with me at some point for naming them this?

Tue Jan 15, 2013 2:26 pm

I think because this is your child, you should name her whichever name you choose. If you don't care for the name Marge, you should not choose it and nobody should be pressuring you to use it. If you like any of the variations like Margaret, Marjorie, etc.) then go with that. Marge is a name that I personally would not use because it's not my style. I also do not like that it sounds like a nickname, I would prefer to use a longer version (like Marjorie or Margaret). Good luck!

Tue Jan 15, 2013 4:00 pm

I think it is absolutely ridiculous for them to expect you to use the name they pick out. It's fine for them to suggest it, explain why they think Marge is better than an alternative, etc, but they should not expect you to use it (they can hope and pray, sweeten you up with pastries and such), but otherwise it is ridiculous, I think, for them to expect this. Are you open to Maggie? I think that is sweet and would not be teased and is similar to Marge. I agree with you that Marge may have teasing potential (it may be fine, you never know). Margaret, Margery, Marguerite, Margot, etc, are all nice. However I would hesitate to even use a variant if they are too pushy about this and especially if you are not motivated to do so. A name honors someone if that is the intention, but if you just do it out of exasperation, it's hardly the same thing.

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Tue Jan 15, 2013 11:09 pm

Honestly? I think the fact that your family has told you what they think you should name your child, and then has said "no variations"is absolutely ridiculous.

This is YOUR child. YOURS. If you like the idea of honoring that family member, then I think that is great... but you should do it in a way that makes YOU happy.

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Tue Jan 15, 2013 11:57 pm

Honestly? I think the fact that your family has told you what they think you should name your child, and then has said "no variations"is absolutely ridiculous.

This is YOUR child. YOURS. If you like the idea of honoring that family member, then I think that is great... but you should do it in a way that makes YOU happy.

THIS... Exactly!

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Wed Jan 16, 2013 6:49 am

Ridiculous! You don't want to risk resenting your baby's name every time you look at her! Naming your baby is a very important and personal thing! Marge I think either 80 yr old Grandma or Marge from the Simpson's with her whisly dolly voice and blue hair...neither are a good image. Don't feel pressured and do what you want to do!

Wed Jan 16, 2013 11:11 am

I agree with everyone else. Ultimately, it is up to you to decide. As mentioned, you might find an alternative that you like to be used in the first or middle name spot.

I am not a fan of Marge on its own. I think Margaret, Marjorie, Marjolein, or even Marcheline (a bit more of a stretch), are nice. I also like the looks of Marj over Marge (but only if being used as a nickname for something else.) I am not usually a fan of alternative spelling, but Marj makes it seem more youthful and fresh.

But remember, this is your child. You have the right to pick whatever you like.

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Wed Jan 16, 2013 1:29 pm

I personally don't like the name "marge" on it's own and it reminds me of the Simpsons. Now I think using it as a Nickname would be great for a more formal name.

For them to tell you NO you can't use another name is just wrong! This is YOUR child and you will have to live with what you named her just like she will for the rest of you lives. Honestly, if it were me I would tell them the name wasn't even a possibility since they are being so difficult about it.

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Thu Jan 17, 2013 2:17 am

Yup, what everyone else said. And I think Marge will make most people think of The Simpsons, so yes, I think she would get teased.

Use Marge only if you want to. Feel free to make it a MN, use a variant, use a variant as a MN, or not use it at all. I happen to love Margaret, Margareta, and Marguerite, but that's my opinion. This is your baby.

HTH, and good luck!

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Thu Jan 17, 2013 11:46 am

Ugh, tell them they can name their own babies!! This is not their child to name! I would not be having a bar of it. Names are special and important and for each and every child born, the only people who should have any input worth anything should be the parents.

Fri Jan 18, 2013 1:28 am

This won't be very helpful, because A) I am pregnant and fiesty and B) I don't want name requests from ANYONE. Even my husband can suggest but not "request". No way.

I'd be like, "Oh really? Why don't YOU have a baby and name it Marge?" and if they kept pushing me, I'd tell them to never mention it to me again.

There is probably a reason no one has ever tried to pressure me about a name.

Good luck!