Sun Jan 13, 2013 3:57 pm
I know this board is a bit slow. I am normally on the baby names board, but I thought I'd venture over here to ask for some possible help.
Every weekday after school I am helping out a friend by taking her 15 yo son in until she and her husband get off work.
I work school hours with special needs kids and am quite familiar with aspergers.
Because of this, I am pretty certain that this boy has aspergers. But I don't know how to bring it up to his parents.
As of right now they just think that "he enjoys acting more like an 8 yo, and ignoring [them], but know that he is very smart and more mature for his age in areas such as math, music, & science. So don't understand him"
Those are what they see. What they can't see is that there is a possible reason behind some of his other behaviors and lack of maturity in some areas.
Why I feel the need to bring this up is that for as long as he is with me, I have little problem getting him to focus-my DH and I have been keeping to a strict schedule when he is with us and using many techniques I do with the kids I work with.
But when his parents have him, they are very disorganized and chaotic with their time, and therefore are constantly having issues with their son, trying to keep him focused and on task, and I see him becoming anxiety and then that turning to depression when this occurs.
I would like to figure out a way of explaining to them about aspegers and that he may have it without just saying because knowing them they will not want to hear it- they are type who would see it as me saying that they are bad parents. Which is not true, but I feel that if they were to understand that aspergers were a possibilty then they might seek out in getting a diagnosis for their son, and would then hopefully learn how they might better help him.
Do any of you have any ideas? Or perhaps if you are a parent of a child of aspergers, how would you suggest I help them understand this, without making it look like I'm stepping on their toes as parents. This couple knows very little of aspergers/autism, and from what I know about his school- they don't work with many special needs students and have very few kids using an IEP. So, it would take "that one" teacher/staff member to notice- if you know what I mean by that.
Any help would be great.