When did you feel like this was real? : Pregnancy after Infertility

Wed Oct 28, 2009 8:16 am

I am 12 weeks today, but it has been a week and a half since the last appointment. I am not due to go in again until Nov. 16th, but considering the peri ever calls, that appointment should be in about 2 weeks. I CAN'T TAKE IT ANYMORE!!! My therapist gave me a huge book of meditation stuff to help me calm down, but I need to know that they're okay. DH is forbidding me from ordering the baby beat, but I cannot go a month without knowing if they are okay. I try to stay off my infertility board but check it probably every few days and there are always losses at 14 weeks or 22 weeks and stuff like that. It's so hard this early because I can't feel anything.

I am prone to anxiety, but got off meds for the babies (even though the doc said they are safe). Did anyone else experience this? Am I crazy? I don't think I will know this is going well until they are out and I can see them, and that's kind of psycho, right?

Wed Oct 28, 2009 1:28 pm

I say be excited about today!!! You have reached an awesome milestone!! I sighed after 12 weeks with my twins...I am pregnant, now, and going through the anxiety all over again my next appt isn't until Monday but God I can't wait until I am at 12 weeks!! So, I long to be where you are today!!! Enjoy the moment!!

Wed Oct 28, 2009 1:46 pm

I was also freaked out every step of the way. It started getting more real when I could FINALLY FEEL HER MOVE which wasn't until 20 some weeks along and even when I don't feel her move now I get worried lol. So I guess the anxiety and fear will always be there but just try not to think of the worst. I had a few scares with this little one but I kept my mind off of it and we know now that everything is just perfect. I can't really give you any advice because I was paranoid about every little thing early on too

BUT one thing for sure is that pregnancy does fly by!!!!!!! Before you know it you will have your little one in your arms in no time

Wed Oct 28, 2009 4:45 pm

It definetly became more real when I could feel him move and more so when I had to shove his feet from under my ribs and felt him pushing back. However it wasn't fully real until about 5:00 pm, Oct 2nd, when they said he was coming that night.
Mommy tobe is right, pregnancy flies by quickly. Try to enjoy today. Some days are harder than others but you can drive yourself crazy with worry and that isn't good for you or for your little one. I found posting here and on my DDC helped.

Wed Oct 28, 2009 8:23 pm

I definitely started worrying a little less once I could feel her moving around and with each appointment where I could hear her heartbeat also helped, but the worry still lingers. It definitely became more real when she was moving consistantly (that I could feel), but even now at 37 weeks, sometimes it is hard for me to grasp that this is REAL, that this is finally happening. Then I get a good kick in the ribs and THAT is hard to not take as a real sign. LOL!

I understand what you mean about wanting to see and hold your LO, but after they are born, it will just be a new set of worries that start. LOL! That joys of motherhood.....I think we'll always worry about our LOs.

I agree w/ the PP....you've hit a great and important milestone. Enjoy this time...it goes by SSSSOOOO fast!!!

Thu Oct 29, 2009 9:33 pm

Yeah! 12 weeks!! That's an awesome time in your pregnancy :-)

I totally understand the anxiety you are feeling and it's very normal to feel that way after infertility. After all, we tend to feel "broken" because it took us longer to get pregnant. However, you've made it to an important milestone and it's actually pretty rare to lose a baby after this point and after seeing a good heartbeat. I think we just feel more vulnerable because we know how fragile a pregnancy is. But, be sure to enjoy this time!!!

I also freaked out every step of the way. At the same time, I make sure to do things I would enjoy to relax. I put a lot of importance on taking great care of myself so that way I was doing everything possible to support the pregnancy. I am prone to anxiety too. Have you ever tried yoga, meditation or any other relaxation techniques? It's helped me a lot.

Good luck to you and come back any time you need support. We've all been in your shoes!!! I'm 33 weeks now and still can freak myself out but I take it one step at a time and try my best not to think of the worst :-)

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