When to tell your children

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triest..
by trieste
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Sun Nov 06, 2011 4:07 pm
Hi all-

I just went through a second missed m/c in May, the first one was April 09. We hadn't told my kids with the first one yet, they were pretty young then, but with this last pregnancy after i saw the heartbeat around 8 1/2 weeks we told them. Then, I lost it 4 weeks later and we had to explain to them what had happened, I'm not sure they fully understood, they are 4 and 6 and didn't seem too upset about it. But, now I'm pregnant again and I'm wondering when I should tell them. I don't have an actual appt until Dec 20 (i'll be 11 weeks then), but we do get to have an u/s at 6 weeks. I'm also have hormone levels checked this week...so, I was thinking if all looked okay at the u/s we could tell them or do you think I should wait until Christmas to let them know? Have any of you had this experience with your own kids?
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mkb14
by mkb14
Posts 980
Sun Nov 06, 2011 5:13 pm
Christmas gets my vote. When they are younger like that especially. We told our four year old at 12 weeks after two ultrasounds. It must seem like an eternity ago to him that we told him he was going to be a big brother. Tomorrow is our big day, he seems more excited to bounce around with family members of mine than to meet his little brother. I figure he's so young that after we come home and get settled is when he'll really truly understand, yup it should be a fun house (er, crazy house hahahah). Just opinion, good luck to you and your family, happy and healthy nine months to you!
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